Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Oh what things I have seen...

okay so let me just tell you 2 strange things I saw today...Strange thing #1...I was leaving work. I'm driving along, minding my own business and I see from afar this guy without his shirt on... swinging it in his hand.  I already know from the first spotting that its gonna be a rough site to see. So as I roll closer to him, I look and I am shell shocked! Taken aback if you will.
This dude hand fuckin boobs!! I am talking like a B cup or a full C. This was no joke. And see from the back of him you wouldn't suspect boobs and definately not of that size. It wasn't in the way he walked or anything. But you caught that side view!!??? Man O' man you could have an accident! It was amazing to me that I am pretty sure I said under my breath in a whisper, " that dude got fuckING boobs!!
But back to the real problem with this...HE didn't have his damn shirt on! I mean I absolutely detest seeing dudes without their shirts on doing things like walking to the bus the hood. I mean your not even like playing ball, or working out, or construction, or something outdoorsy where you would sweat BECAUSE YOUR WORKING!!! It wasn't even that hot outside for him to even just be hot from walking...I am conFUS-SED. Its just strange to me, I mean for example...That weird video with Romeo rapping with no shirt on and a backpack...on his back??(I can't remember it right now but I will you tube it and find out).
I mean who does these things. Just standing around a bunch of dudes with no shirt on and a backpack on your back. That's not cool. Now you got these dumb little kids out here thinking its cool to do...It's disgusting..STOP IT!!

Strange thing #2...On the home in the darkness of 9:43pm. And I out of the corner of my left eye, I see this guy running/jogging (a little bit of both) and it looks  like he has jeans on....I giggled to myself a little, and yall know why...its just plain weird! But anyway, I roll up further and see he really does have on jeans and a black t-shirt running/jogging. He is not in a hurry but he definately doesn't want to be late. It is dark and he is black like a good solid black, with crazy looking hair. I am out in the county full of white people and he is running/jogging down the jeans??!! I mean REALLY??!! Who does these things??!?!?!?Outside of that I was so dumbfounded because he was so dark that if you didn't have on headlights you would hit him. For sure... No doubt...I am so sure that the folks were a little frightened at first glance because I myself was a little Taken aback to see someone so bold and daring. I mean he could be running to just get home cause he has to take a dump who knows, its just not an everyday thing in this area and I was quite befuddled.
I mean its got to hurt...its a dude in jeans running/jogging. No matter how baggie the jeans, your balls are swing a little sumthin, sumthin. I mean that would hurt for a girl!!
I just don't get it?

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Memorial thank you's...

I just want thank those that left messages about Jaeden. He will be truly missed. It still seems so fresh in my mind for me. I look at my youngest child, who was Jaeden's cousin, and I get to see his face everyday and I get so emotional because I could not imagine not being able to do that everyday. I feel so much for Trice and just wish that I could take it all back and make it so it never happened. Its not fair but I understand God's will.
Since the accident and then the funeral I still cannot stop thinking about the situation. For those that were at the scene I cannot imagine that you could ever be the same after seeing that. Thank you for sharing your comments and memories and words.
Not to take anything away from his parents... To Trice, I pray your strength everyday. As a mother I cannot imagine the pain in your heart. You and your family will always be forever in my prayers. To Marcus, I am still mad at you but I am human. I pray your strength as well. Its bad enough that there was a loss of life but to know that you somehow fit into the equation can only crush your heart because you will have to live with that for the rest of your life. You and your family will also always be in my prayers.

Beef in my Maryland Crab Soup??

ok so today at work I was feeling a way. Not sure why or what but I could feel that there was an anxiety growing in my chest. I even said to a co worker I feel like I am gonna cuss somebody out today! Again not sure why but it was a feeling. I stepped out at lunch to go to the bank and came back soon. I only get a 30 minute lunch so I ran upstairs to the "cafe" to grab something quick to eat. I ordered a small cup of md crab soup. I sat down with my friends and ate and talked. As I was eating I noticed a big chunk in my soup. At first it was covered with the crab meat and I thought it may have been a piece of crab meat from the claw. Upon further review (a closer look) I saw that the consistency was not right for my initial thought. So then I am thinking maybe its a beef bouillion cube...not sure why it would still be whole in the soup since it was hot it would have dissolved. I am basically forcing myself to not believe what I believe it is in the bowl....a chunk of beef. Now outside of the following: being from Baltimore, MARYLAND and having never been anywhere here where they have made md crab soup with beef chunks or known anyone to add this to md crab soup I was baffled. the problem is that I don't eat red meat at all and haven't for 20 years! So there in lies the problem....
I asked the lady in the cafe, who by the way I know well, if it was beef and she said yes, I always put beef in my crab soup. So needless to say I was pissed! I have had her crab soup severeal times and didn't run across any beef chunks and I know several others that have enjoyed the soup as well and never come across beef chunks. I threw away my $3.13 lunch and left to go back downstairs. My pressure was very high...I was hot all over my body I felt like I was on fire. I was pissed to say the least.
The joy in having a cafe in your office is being able to CHOOSE what you want to eat. If there had been a sign or something posted that stated there was beef in the md crab soup I would have CHOSEN another item...see kids you can make your own choices!
I know that I am not the only person in the entire building that doesn't eat red meat so it could have been anybody And I don't expect her to cook the food based on what I eat or don't eat...all i am saying is post it somewhere.......
the other issue that was later brought to my attention was that the soup from yesterday was beef and barley.....coincidence???? One can say yes maybe...I am not saying that they used left over B&B soup because I can't but I'm just saying...coincidence????
I was hot for the rest of the day...super pissed. I did have a little nausea and when I got home I just slept it off. But oh what a day.....I love my job and the cafe because I get to have a CHOICE.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

memorial tragedy...the loss of a beautiful boy

This was supposed to be a nice, cool, summer memorial weekend that ended in tragedy. A young boy, age 6 was killed this weekend in a terrible car accident. He was my sons little cousin. To say I am saddend is an understatement. I can only imagine what his mother is going through as this was her only child. The little boys father was the one driving the car. I don't want to put too much out there but needless to say he was a reckless person, with his life and obviously his childs. He is the reasson that his son is gone and I don't think I can forgive him. I am so mad at him right now!! I am so mad I just wanna scream and tell him that it should have been him that lost his life but I know that is not the right thing to do and I wouldn't wish death on anyone. Its a shame that this is even the situation right now. I don't ever want to see him or speak to him ever. I am certain he will go to jail and I pray that he does because he needs help. His sons mother has now lost her only child and will never feel complete again. His parents, who through all of this have had nervous breakdowns after losing their first grandson. It hurts for them as well because they know all of his trials and the things that he has done and they still couldn't help him. I will not leave out any other family members because everyone is hurt and troubled by this situation.  Its unbelievable.
He was the sweetest boy who loved to play and smile. He had so much to live for and didn't get a chance. It's not fair. I am so sick, truly sick!!
Its a shame...his father was given second chance after second chance to do it right and he still has to sacrifice his sons life to learn a lesson.
Well  I hope that he has learned the lesson because he will never get to see his son again and will only have what last memory they shared before the incident.
I wish this on no one, not even my worst enemy. I pray that his mother will find peace and be able to regain her life and all of those involved as well.
If ever any of the family should come across this blog...I pray you strength to get through this tough time. The road may be shakey ahead but find faith and trust in His word. I really don't know what else to say but He was loved very much and will be missed even more.

Rest in Peace Jaeden  forever in our hearts. 5/31/2010.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Give good service???

So me and my homegirl went to this restaurant that will remain nameless and our waitress we shall call her  "Burma" like a Burmese Python. Anyway, it was dumb empty in the place and she comes over and introduces herself and proceeds to take our order. Since we had about 7-10 minutes to figure it before she got to our table, so we knew what we wanted to eat and drink. We proceed to tell her our order and she moves friend forgot to tell her what she wanted to drink and Burma didn't bother to ask as she trotted away. When she did come back to the table she had my friend's house salad that she ordered and then told me that the 22oz Killians that I ordered with my meal they were out of. She proceeds to bring me the regular 14oz beer....gee I really was wanting the 22oz...but no biggie. She takes my friends drink order ...listen closely now..."a pear maragrita on ice with salt". Sounds yummy right??? I know I thought the same.
So my friend gives me her salad because she really didn't want the salad but had Burma heard her when she tried to call her 3 times she would have known she gave it to me and I gladly ate it. It wasn't the greatest house salad..the croutons were stale and it wasn't mixed together..I mean the tomato was on eastside of the bowl, the croutons were on the northside and their was cheese on the west...the lettuce was just in the middle claiming no side. While I was handling the salad Burma came back with her drink...some red looking thing in a tall glass with salt dripping down the sides and a big ass orange slice on the rim....What in the grapeseed oil was this?? We both looked perplexed she tasted it she realized this definately  was not what I ordered and besides it looks like the Berry maragarita that was advertised in the picture. So Burma strolls by and my friend tells her that she doesn't want the drink because its not what she ordered and Burma's response was...wait for it...wait for it..."oh maybe she used too much syrup". I was dumbfounded..really Burm that's the reason?? Is that was they tell you to say in training?? Come on dude you can do better then that. So my friend orders a Killians like me and Burm strolls to get that. She has now pushed the "pear margarita with too much syrup" to the side and I have finished as much of the salad as I am going to eat. I push my bowl to the side as well for Burm to be able to take it on her way. She finally comes back with our food and she leaves the finished salad bowl and the 2 empty beer bottles and the fake ass pear margarita on the table. This is annoyig because the waitressing for dummnies says that you should always move the dirty dishes from off of the table especially when you serve the patrons their food. So I was a little bothered by that but wanted to see how many times she was going to attempt this magical feet of remmoving the dirty and empty things from out table. She came through at least 3 times and still didn't bother to touch a single thing! Amazing...she should read the book! So I was finishing my meal and Burm gives us the check..she still manages to charge us for the fakes ass pear margarita, which by the way shows up on the receipt as a blackberry maragarita....$6 goddamn dollars too. So she comes back and my friend says to her "can you take this off because I didn't drink it and its not what I ordered" she says. Burma's response...."typically they don't refund alcohol but I will check with my manager." Now mind you, as all of this is going on it still as dry as the sahara in there and for some reason 4 folks in the open kitchen area seem to be staring at us the entire time. My friends back is to them when I mention it and tell her to turn around...soon as she did the littlest one turns her head quickly so as not to be noticed..."OMG Billy, she turned around and looked at me...why are they staring at us?? We were staring at them..quick just walk away" So we laugh at them and Burm comes back and sits the bill on the table "sign the top copy he took it off" and strolls around the corner. What the heezy is wrong with people we are thinking??  What kind of service is this???
Ok Burm I know as a waitress in this state your hourly wage is low as in most states but um if you gotta work for your tips imma need you to do that so don't feel bad that your tip may not be the percentage that you want it to be. I mean at the end of the day ask yourself...was my service up to par? Did I do the best that I could? No Burm you didn't ..we were not rude to you or gave you any shit and yet decided to act "a way" towards us in the one area that you are judged on so take your tip and deal with it! I won't discuss the amount but I thought that the amount given was too much cause she wasn't even worth it! Its all good because we won't be back and I will be sure to spread the word to all my peeps NOT to go to that place because they don't know how to give good service!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Cookie Cutter

So I was watching this "Black is Beautiful" show on BET. It was an episode where Cookie Johnson aka Magic Johnson's wife was on there marketing her CJ jeans. So I was very interested because she had some cute styles and I am a black woman who does have the 'can't find a good pair of jeans' issue as most of us do. They did a great job selling me and probably all of the other black women watching the program. They even did an audience make over on a woman that had no style...according to her and her best good girlfriend.....I finally got a chance to google her and see what the bizness is cause I wanted to get a pair of these oh so cute and fittin jeans.....ok head on collison.....she doesn't have her own website for her collection...ok not all designers do when they have been picked up by select stores to carry their product....but then again they still have a place to show THEIR stuff for real. So I was a little disappointed in that but then I looked at which sites were coming up on the search: Neiman's, Nordstrom, etc. So high end jeans line I am thinking..this wasn't stated in the show. She said "affordable line of jeans for black women" I know we are in a recession and all but damn for real?? So I click on Nordstroms because the other N name is not currently in my budget...well neither is Nordstroms right now...hahahahaaa but I can get to that one quicker then I can the I digress...I click on the link and promptly get where I want to be..or not...$110, $117, $141??? WHAT??!! eh hem as I clear my throat. Are my eyes deceiving me??? What in the Hell is affordable about some $100 jeans?? We are in a recession and we are black and most of our bank accounts have been in a recession for a minute...especially if you have kids and are a single parent...Now don't get me wrong I have paid $100 bucks for some jeans but I had a $100 bucks to spend. And generally its not something I do on theregular because I have 2 kids so my money goes to them but it was my birthday and I wanted to get something nice for myself. Anyway.... Just not seeing the value in this woman yet. And not too mention there are all white women modeling the jeans....So how am I as a black woman supposed to relate to this?? The point that she made was how hard it was for "us" to buy/find jeans that fit our curves ..hips, thighs, butts...So I am supposed to determine by flat Becky's that have no hips, thighs, or butts that these will be the perfect fit for me??? I don't think so Cookie...You sold out....You came on there so pro hips, thighs and butts and pro everyday women affordable and to my surprise I can only get them from a high end retail store and if I choose to purchase them online I can't even look at a true fit model that looks like me to determine how they will fit on my hips, thighs, and butt!! i guess for now she is just like the rest...entertaining her market. I know you gotta do what you gotta do but don't get my hopes up that I can sport these cute ass denim selections that will cover all of my curves but for a price...maybe...